NEW YEAR RESOLUTION
SO,
WHAT’S YOUR
NEW
YEAR’S RESOLUTION?
By NUTAN SEHGAL
It’s
a universally accepted fact that most promises to oneself are made to be
broken.
Why is it so tough to keep promises that are made and with so much
conviction and enthusiasm? The answer is simple. Most of us over resolve. We
make promises that are sometimes too tough to achieve.
“ I’ll stop smoking – or drinking. I’ll lose 20 kilos in one year.”
That’s a recipe for disaster. Quitting smoking and drinking together and on top
of it losing 20 kilos in a year?
Perish the thought.
The resolution is likely to be dumped in first week of January! It would be
better to have resolved to do something more doable – doing one thing at a
time.
Resolutions are made to concentrate upon areas in our lives that need
urgent improvement. And yet, how many people actually stick to them?
Even if they are made after a great deal of thought, they are most
likely to be broken.
You may feel guilty
for sometime but eventually even the guilt fades away.
Every New Year …….. and even on birthday or special occasions – people
make a serious resolution to do or not to do something. But even if the
resolution is not difficult to stick to, chances are that it will be forgotten
in a few days’ time despite all the good intentions while making it.
FAMILIAR RESOLUTIONS:
! I will quit smoking.
! I will give up booze.
! I will lose weight.
! I will join a gym.
! I will study harder.
! I will spend more time with the
family.
! I will go slow on impulsive
shopping.
! I will not lose my temper.
!
I will become more sociable.
!
I will find a better job/make more money.
WAYS TO REACH YOUR
GOAL.
Remember: as a toddler when you
started walking you kept falling down. Soon you learnt to stand up and start
again. Gradually walking became an ingrained movement in you. So, start by
taking those baby stepsh That’s the only
way you will reach your goal.
Otherwise, you will be like the guy
who wrote the following in his diary on New Year eve……..”Cigarettes….New Record. I
resolved to kick the habit at 11.58 pm. I managed to break the resolution in
five minutes. I lit one at 12.03 a.m. Happy New Year.”
WHY IS IT SO
DIFFICULT?
Why? The simplest reason for this is that resolutions mean behavioural
changes and most people resist change, particularly when it involves a set
pattern or habit, It is so much easier to go along with the flow and continue
doing whatever one is doing.
Psychologists say the following are
some of the common reasons for breaking a resolutions ………….
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! Lack of motivation
! Loss of commitment
! Habit is too ingrained.
! If you give up once, you give up
forever.
! Resolutions are not realistic or
achievable.
! You make too many resolutions at
one time.
! Lack of will power
! The subconscious looks for
instant gratification.
! The ‘now’ is more important and
relevant than the future.
! Is there a way to stick to the
resolutions?
! Yes, there are several ways, say
experts.
! But keep in mind the following
things………..
·
Keep small goals which are reachable and doable
·
If you can’t give up smoking or
booze keep trying to restrict their intake
·
If you want to lose weight, eat healthy for at least one meal at a day
·
Can’t work out daily? Start a weekly regimen and increase gradually
·
If you make a mistake, don’t give up, forgive yourself and carry on.
·
Keep reminding yourself why the resolution is good for you
·
Reward yourself weekly for sticking to a resolution.
Source: The Tribune December
31, 2011
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